Samsung are about to have an unpacked event on the 11/2/20 so it might just be worth holding off for now @maggiethecat
In regards to your question then I would offer up the following advice.
If like me you want a powerhouse of a phone with an a pen and good battery life then choose the Samsung Note 10+ / Samsung Note 10+ 5G like i did.
Youve posted in the Note 9 boards and I see you tagged in a Note 9 which I assume is your current phone. Once someone has used a Note series phone they may find it hard to revert to another series !
If your wanting a similar phone but won't probably use a s pen then perhaps the Samsung Galaxy s10+ or one of the other versions of the s10 line up.
This is one of the good comparison sites 》Samsung phone line up.
My suggestion is if someone you know uses one of these ask them how they have found the phone in usage terms and if you can pop into a Samsung Store or a Network Store and have a play with the retail models.
Look at YouTube videos.
Enjoy the journey.
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